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Wanderings of Lockdown: Turning to Screen Saving Mode and Opening Doors Virtually

During the first days of lockdown I was convicted that I have a problem of wasting time.

It’s been a long while problem – I can sit down for hours in the same spot, browsing aimlessly on social media only to regret it after, that I could have (and should have) done something productive with my time. With the lock down in motion, and I am home most of the time, I have caught myself sitting with my kids “playing”, but really be looking on my phone reading an article that is worthless for my wellbeing.

While some may not have a problem with that, I do. I feel guilty that I’d rather be documenting cute moments more than being in the moment (cliche, but so true). I also felt conviction that despite being restricted to meet other people, and as a Christian, we are still called to love one another and show this love by being hospitable to one another.

Certainly being engrossed nose deep in social media, like reading terrible Facebook comment arguments is not loving and productive so here are my reflections of the past 4 weeks of lockdown

Put it away

The best remedy for my problem with my phone is to simply put it away and ‘lose’ it. I’ve set myself times during the day to look at my phone so I don’t miss messages/ calls from people – 1pm and 8pm are the times I’ve chosen because the kids have their afternoon nap at 1pm and by 8pm we would have finished our chores for the night. Sometimes I cheat by putting my phone on Chromecast Spotify so I can glance over my phone if I need to skip “next” on the songs. While this has been hard and not often consistent during the day, having this goal and personal expectation has helped a lot! Because of this, my mind have been on other things and somewhat more ‘free’ than before. I have been able to ponder about things, meditate of what I have been reading, think about people in the church, pray for them, think of other people that I haven’t talk to in a while. I have also been productive physically around the house and am able to give our kids undivided attention, eye contact and physical affection. This has opened doors for my imagination when interacting with them, and spring up some cute conversations with Amelia during play time. Of course, some days it’s a total mess – but the more I have put intentionality to my day and expect to go “Screen saving” mode, the more fruitful and productive I feel. I can only hope that this will carry on well into the future and this will open space and opportunities for our kids to talk to us about anything and everything. Even the hard topics!

Be Hospitable in the Crisis

Showing hospitality isn’t bound to the physical gathering of you and other people. It’s much more than that! It’s showing love to the other person earnestly (1 Peter 4:8-9), it’s looking after one another’s needs (Romans 12:13), it express your selflessness and servanthood (1 Timothy 5:10), and even loving and calling those who are not close to you (Hebrews 13:2). God’s word, commands, teachings, and His power isn’t confined to circumstances and it certainly not affected by a virus He has let into the world. The lockdown doesn’t give us a free pass to park our Christian duties and come back to it when it’s all over either – we just have to do things differently! We are fortunate that we live in a time with robust WiFi and programmes that allows us to call or video call at a press of a button to stay connected. Call, text, DM, Video Call your friends and family daily. Christians, offer to read the bible with someone once a week, (or maybe more if you’re feeling up to it) just like we are commanded in Titus 2. Don’t neglect the meeting of the saints but be present during care groups and church, even if it’s done virtually.

This lockdown I was resolved to text/ call at least one person a day from our church. I have been encouraged to know what is going on in their lives and I got to know them personally even more than before. I was able to talk to people in my age group, younger, and older. Some conversation lasted a few minutes, some lasted 2 hours. Some text went back and forth for days with long threads, others only seemed like a polite greeting. Either way, I have felt encouraged to know that I have friends that I can call family whom I can share life with, and I am encouraged that they have also feel more-or-less the same!

With some ladies, I offered to read the bible with them. If you’re in the position to do this – go for it! By position, I mean comfortable with reading the bible for yourself. You don’t have to be a theologian, you don’t have to be married to one either. You don’t have to know a smidge of Greek and Hebrew or church history. You just need to pray and ask God that the Holy Spirit be present in your conversations and to interpret the scripture for you. With 4 different ladies, we have chosen a book of the Bible to go through and read around 8 to 10 verses at a time. We read it once, then go verse by verse discussing what we think it meant from the text itself (For example: Romans 1:1 we would say that Paul was the author and he served Jesus Christ. He had authority because he was an apostle, and his vocation is to tell people about the gospel of God). This takes off pressure on me who ‘leads’ by not spending 2 hours pre-reading and preparing for a bible study; it takes off the person I am reading with, being intimidated with all the ‘fluff’ that goes beyond the text (interesting and maybe helpful in some cases, but not necessary); it focuses on us both strictly on what the text is saying and that is the goal! The more casual, the better. It opens opportunities to talk about how the text has affected us personally, which will grow your friendship.

Pray

Why not go the extra step and take the day to pray for the person that you have talked? It doesn’t have to be constant, but whenever the Holy Spirit may prompt you to pray as you remember them and your conversation with them. I have found this both encouraging yet challenging. Encouraging since I feel closer in friendship with the person, but challenging as I begin to realise how much unnecessary thoughts that can distract me from praying constantly during the day, and how easy for me to slide it into the “maybe later” thought box. Like most mums/women, everyday there is a long list of ‘to do’s’ to achieve. It’s easy for me to think about the exact steps of how I’m going to tackle my pre-cooking dishes, cooking and post-cooking dishes to the most effective time, water and energy saving, than it is to spend a few moments praying to God. You don’t have to prepare a “quiet space” and spend an hour everytime you are prompted to pray, just pray as the Holy Spirit leads you that moment. Perhaps this is what it means when Paul instructs us to pray without ceasing in 1 Thessalonians 5:17. Having a quiet devotional time through bible reading and praying is essential, but don’t be discouraged when time may not allow. Cling to Him, go to Him, pray throughout and always. Your relationship with God isn’t a 15min- 1 hour time slot during the day.

Productive Procrastinating, Idleness, Resting

Time management has been my biggest downfall. Hanli often jokes that the house is cleanest when I have a pressing matter that needs to be done, but I refuse to do it! I’m sure all of you have experienced productive procrastinating. It’s a good point to remember that although your house, car, wardrobe, drawer, bathroom, kitchen, etc. might be spotless, productive procrastinating is still procrastinating! If communing with God is our priority, and if Jesus is our be-all-end-all in our lives, getting to know Him should be the pressing matter. Sadly, I can’t say that I have dropped or sacrifice my time to be with God under His Word and in prayer, and I’m sure I will struggle in some way or another until the rest of my life with this, but I want and need to change! How can I be the light to the world, or pray for others or be hospitable if I am not holding fast to His Word and clinging to Him by going to Him for everything in prayer?

I also struggle with the concept of ‘rest’.

What is rest?

Something that mothers don’t have.

Just kidding.

Resting is an active decision to stop working. When I think of the idea of resting in the Lord, I think of stopping my normal routines, chores, and other tracks for myself and either stopping or doing it and delighting in Him. It can mean publicly worshipping Him at church, communing with Him in my own personal time, going to Him when I’m feeling anxious, muddled in thoughts, when I am at my wits end with my children, or setting aside a day to enjoy the gifts that He has given me in life to simply give thanks to Him. Resting in God should happen daily and continually. More often I am guilty of being idle instead of resting – an equivalent of sitting down and twiddling my thumbs. Not useful, fruitful, or beneficial to anyone! I am reminded that although it’s good to have a rest and enjoy life and your own interests, there’s a huge difference between being idle and resting. I resolve to make my rests more intentional and do less idling and more resting during my days.

Be Kind

I love Jacinda Ardern’s emphasis during the lockdown: be kind. Little does she know that the Lord has commanded us to be kind from the dawn of time, because He is kind. In amidst all the chaos, I am appalled to see such shocking posts and comments. It’s a good reminder that God is Sovereign. He is in control. We don’t have ultimate human freedom anyways, so having it be taken from us for a brief moment in life won’t cost us much but our convenience. There’s no ulterior motives of COVID-19, especially not vaccine related. We are still called to love each other and at this time, this means staying home, be enclosed in our bubbles and do the work God sets out for us from our home. We are also called to submit to our leaders, since, ultimately, God was the one who appointed them. Bringing them down, rebelling against the authorities is not loving and it certainly doesn’t glorify God.

Again, I am thankful that I have had the privilege to meet together with other believers since the first day I went to church. Many in the world have never experienced this, simply because their circumstances doesn’t allow them to.

“It is easily forgotten that the fellowship of Christian brethren is a gift of grace, a gift of the Kingdom of God that any day may be taken from us, that the time that still separates us from utter loneliness may be brief indeed. Therefore, let him who until now has had the privilege of living a common Christian life with other Christians praise God’s grace from the bottom of his heart. Let him thank God on his knees and declare: It is grace, nothing but grace, that we are allowed to live in community with Christian brethren” – Dietrich Bonhoeffer, in Life Together (1939)

I am thankful that we have high tech systems and programs put in place that allows me to ‘attend’ church with a click of a button. Many people and churches around the world don’t have this privilege. Brothers and sisters in Christ, while we are in this season, let us think and prioritise our mission here on earth and that is to love God, love others and make Him known to the world.

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DIY Your Mermaid Costume!

Before lock down, I bought a 2m sequinned fabric from our local fabric store. Amelia was at a mum’s coffee group one Friday and fell in love with a mermaid costume that she wore ’till we had to leave. I thought to myself that I surely could make one similar!

More than 2 weeks have past and that piece of fabric have been a gateway to a whole load of imagination! We draped it over the seat of the couch to the floor and for a while, we pretended that it was a waterfall that her toy animals/ dolls came to swim/ drink at. Then it became a swimming hole/ shower water as we draped it over our heads with said toys. We made it into a wedding dress, a Sari, a ball dress, a blanket and more. Alas, this afternoon was probably the first afternoon since lock down that both girls had a full 2 hour afternoon nap, and it was bliss. I decided today was the day. With the motivation being a little sick of the piece of material (and pretending to swim underneath the fabric for the upteenth time), and my itching fingers waiting to get back to working on the sewing machine, I took the moment and went for it. I gained consent from Amelia prior her nap, so I was in the clear. Goodbye sequinned fabric, I won’t miss ya!

This project is a quick one and can be made without a sewing machine, albeit slower in process. It’s great for beginners or even something to do with your older kids, ages 4+. You can even whip this up for yourself for halloween or costume parties!

You will need:

  • Fabric material (length depending of the person you’re making it with, but 2m is plenty). Material that has no stretch/ one-way stretch at most. I used a sequinned one mentioned above, but the world is your oyster!
  • Butcher paper/ Kraft paper/ newspaper/ big piece of paper for your pattern
  • Pen
  • Scissors
  • Elastic (width optional) cut to your waist measurement and 2x on your bust measurement, minus 5-10cm on each (depending on your elastic and your measurements!)
  • Interfacing/ thin batting/ heavyweight material
  • Thread
  • Safety pin
  • Sewing machine/ hand-sewing needle

Method:

  • Measure: bust, length from your underarm to where you want the bodice to stop, waist, the length from waist to knee, the length of waist to your ankles

  • Plan: plan out your pattern. Transfer your measurement and plan onto your pattern paper. For this pattern, the waist line would be multiplied by 2 so that it can be gathered and stretched out freely with the elastic. I have also given 10cm at the bottom to attach the fish tail.
  • Create: In this pattern, I made it so that the fabric will be cut on fold. In this case, I would measure the length of the waist from the top (plus 1cm for seam allowance). Measure the length from your waist to your knee (plus the width of your elastic and add 1cm for seam allowance). Then measure the length from your waist to your ankles (plus 1cm seam allowance). After, measure 5cm (plus 1cm seam allowance) in. Connect a diagonal line from the end of the 5cm line and the waist-to-knee- length line. It should look like an upside down trapezium chopped in half. As for the tail, I free-hand this one from a 5cm line from the top and made one side of the tail straight-ish for the fold line, add 1cm seam allowance. Cut pattern to shape.
  • Cut: place and pin the pattern onto the material on fold. Cut material. Cut 1x on fold for the bodice, 2x on fold for the fish tail and 1x on fold for the fish tail on the interfacing fabric (I had some batting lying around the house, but any heavy-ish weight fabric/ interfacing would do the trick!)

  • Hem: hem the two diagonal sides. The fabric I use doesn’t really fray so I just folded it in, 1cm, once, but if your fabric frays then fold it in twice.
  • Join: sew the short sides together. I used French seam* on this one because it’s stronger and I suspect there will be a lot of tension with wearing it on and off all the time.
  • Fold: fold in the top of the bodice to the width of your elastic, plus 1cm. Pin and sew, but leave around 3-5cm gap for the elastic to go through

  • Elastic: attach a safety pin onto the end of the elastic. Thread through elastic into the gap that you just sewed. Gather material as you go (don’t worry about it being uneven because we can fix it after the elastic all goes through!). Be careful of the other end going through the hole, because you’ll be losing the other end in the gap! Once the elastic is all threaded through, pin and sew the elastics together and let it all go into the gap. Sew the gape of the gap to close the gap so the elastic can’t come out.

  • Fish tail: Put right sides together of the fish tail and have the interfacing piece on top of the fabric (fabric against fabric, with right sides together, then interfacing) and sew edges, leaving the top. Flip the fabric so that the right sides are exposed. Sew the top of the tail to the bottom of the bodice. On my one, the bottom of my bodice was a little longer than my tail, so I gathered the bottom of my bodice to make the length the same. I French seam this one too because I predict that either Amelia will step on it, or Phoebe will crawl up to the tail and pull it – either way, there’s going to be lots of tension!

  • Bodice: Cut 2x of fabric with the bust measurement across and the desired length plus the width of your elastic (plus 1cm allowance) x2. This is really important because the elastic is going on the top and bottom and if you don’t have this allowance, it might be shorter than you planned it! Sew sides together. Fold in the top and bottom to the width of your elastic, plus 1cm and pin. Sew the pinned folded bits, leaving 3-5cm opening. The rest is a repeat of step 8, but on the bodice!

Extra: I got a piece of extra material and used it to tie the middle of the bodice for another look. Totally optional!

It was lovely to have the opportunity to surprise Amelia when she woke up from her nap. She was hesitant to come to my call at first because she was “busy reading”, haha! But when she came and had a look, she was totally excited and couldn’t wait to get it on!

Would love to know if you made one for your daughter, cousins, sister, nieces, yourself or anyone else!

*French Seam: sew wrong sides together, 0.5cm. Trim edges so that between the seam and edge is less than 0.5cm. Fold the seam right sides together and sew 0.5cm. You will get the same finish on the right side, but on the wrong side of the fabric there will be no raw edges!

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Supermarkets: A Few Notes.

This Tuesday I made the painstaking trip to the supermarket. I’ve been putting it off for long enough and we’ve run out of space to write any more things on our list.It’s time.I knew as I was preparing to go, that it was going to be longer than my usual trip prior to the pandemic. With limited capacity of people shopping at one time, and the extra precautions we should all take in handling the groceries – I had aside the whole morning for this.

A few tips

With new viruses, comes new research about it. Since Late December/ early January, there’s been lots of research about this novel virus, and new research continues to emerge as we fight the battle to win against this virus. Unlike existing viruses/ bacterial infections no one has immunity to this virus; unlike influenza, this virus suggests that this one is more virulent as it spreads more effectively. We have no treatment or cure, and with the changing of seasons, and how interconnected the world is, this virus spread like wildfire. Although the elderly, those with co-morbidity and the immunocompromised are more likely to be hospitalised and suffer more, the virus doesn’t discriminate and anyone can get it.There’s been evidence that even the asymptomatic ones can carry and transmit the virus – which is probably one of the red flags to why it spread so quickly!Here are the precautions I did to minimise the risk of getting the virus:

Surgical Mask and Hand Sanitiser

I was gifted a pack of surgical mask from a friend and we decided as a family that we would wear the masks if we need to go out to high traffic, essential shops that are open e.g. supermarkets, pharmacies, doctors, etc. Although it doesn’t protect us (me most of the time, as I am the designated shopper) from getting the virus, and New Zealand culture, like many European cultures, seem to shy away from wearing masks in public, we thought it would still provide some protection, if any. Also, my biggest rationale is that although I or my family don’t show any symptoms for COVID-19, I can’t be 100% certain that either of us don’t have the virus. I would hate to be the silent carrier and giver of the virus!As I entered the supermarket I couldn’t help but think how it is impossible to stay in your “bubble”. The amount of people that has touched the trolley, fruits, vegetables, packaging would only mean that if someone does have the SARS-COV-2 virus, we’re gonners. I applied “the patient zone vs the healthcare zone” from work into this but obviously changed it to “my bubble vs red zone”: I sanitised my hands before I entered the supermarket and touch anything else; I applied my surgical mask and then enter the supermarket; I get my groceries; I go to the car and open my boot; I sanitised my hands here; before I grab my disinfectant for my groceries and touch the inside of my car. This way, I have ‘clean’ hands when I disinfect my groceries and pack it in the bags.

Paper List

I should have done this instead of using my phone (lesson learned for next time!). However, it might be helpful to write the list according to the order of the layout of the supermarket so that you don’t miss the items and you don’t have to spend more time than you need to at the supermarket. Avoid pens so you can just throw the list away at the end.I usually take a photo of our whiteboard list at home and go about my supermarket with the photo. In retrospect, I can write the list on paper and avoid bringing my phone, which means I didn’t have to disinfect my phone at the end, but I guess if you disinfect your phone after your groceries then it’s the same thing?

Disinfecting Your Groceries

I used Jeffery VanWingen‘s way of grocery shopping with a slight modification, I brought my disinfectant to the car with my paper towels. I’ve left all my shopping reusable bags in the car and loaded my groceries in the car so that I don’t bring my shopping bags into ‘the red zone’ so that I can take in my groceries in its bags inside my house. I do designate a couple of reusable bags for my fresh produce so that I don’t take these inside the house but more on this below.Once I am at my car, I would saturate a square of paper towel with the disinfectant. I also liberally spray all packaging with disinfectant and as I picked it up, I would wipe it down with the saturated paper towel. Theoretically this should kill most common microbes including the SARS-COV-2 virus. As the packaging is “clean”, I can now pack it into the reusable bags in my car as it good enough to be in my “bubble”.After all this, I disinfect my phone, cards, hand sanitiser, keys, and anything else that I may have touched during my trip to the “red zone”.

At Home

I sanitised my hands before going into the boot. Took all of my bags but the ones with fresh produce inside, and left my fresh produce at the door. I left my sugar and potato in the car for 24 hours because it was in paper packaging and research says that the virus can last in cardboard for that long.I washed my hands with soap and water and changed my clothes. I then pack my packaged boxes away and prepare to wash my fresh produce by filling my sink with warm soapy water (warm water will suffice, but our dishwasher liquid is super mild and I used only a tiny bit). One by one I submerged the fresh produce in the water for 20 seconds and gently scrubbed the fresh produced to wash it and then rinse it under cold water before putting it onto the dish rack to air dry. This took a while, but I bought a lot hoping to last for at least a week and a half to prevent going into the supermarket again until then!I stored my fresh greens and vegetables in my Tupperware and Systemas with a wet paper towel on top and bottom to humidify the cut vegies so that it lasts longer! It has nearly been a week and so far so good!I hope this helps or give insight to our new way of grocery shopping. As I write this, it sounds super ridiculous, overwhelming and pedantic – but as many rightly says it, we are at war with this virus and so every little bit helps to stop the spread. Would you consider shopping this way?

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Day 1: New Schedule for Quarantine

Happy first official day of quarantine!

This week (so far), both girls haven’t really been sleeping well during the night – which resulted in a very volatile day altogether!

Since February last year, Hanli was ordained as a full-time pastor for our church. This means that during the week his “base” is at home. People often make remarks and jokes about how they would hate to have their spouse/ partner work from home, because it’s too much shared space and no where to run. I personally love it – it truly comes with many perks. Doing shift work at the hospital allowed us to work a schedule that we didn’t have to send Amelia into daycare, we also had the opportunity to have both girls 18 months apart. During the crunch-time months of adjusting to a family of four, Hanli was able to work around his schedule and help me around with the kids. I truly thought that quarantine life was going to be similar to our current life. Nope. What I didn’t realise that we’ve set times for us to be outside at different times so that Hanli is able to work, and I can keep the kids happy. Silly me didn’t realise how much of an impact it was going to be for everyone to be stuck at home with no where to go!

New Schedules

Yes all our lives have taken a turn, but this shouldn’t stop us to try and live our lives as normally as possible. Hanli and I have realised very earlier on in our marriage that we’re dwaddlers. Having the first 3 days of this week as a “trial run” of what quarantine is going to be like, we quickly realised that it’s super easy to waste time and get lost into our phones for most of the day. Both of us resolved to write down a super flexible schedule for us to use a reference.

This schedule is super similar to our “normal” one. I usually take the kids out from 9:30am to 12:00pm either to the park, playground, my parents’ house to give Hanli sold time to do his work. We come home at 12:00pm for lunch and by 1:30pm the kids are in bed for their afternoon nap. I have free rein to do whatever until they wake up at 3:00/ 3:30pm, while Hanli continues to do work. By 4:00pm the kids usually hang around at home or we would go on a walk around the neighbourhood and come back by 5:30pm for dinner, which then leads to shower time at 6:00/ 6:30pm and bed time around 7:00pm.

Our quarantine schedule are as follows

7:00am – wake up (if only we can sleep longer! Our children are our most effective alarm that can’t be turned off)

8:30am – Breakfast/ Church Time (where we read the bible and discuss it and pray together with our kids, as a family).

Yes. It does really take us 1.5 hours to really wake up and get up. Between then we snooze with our kids in bed, change their nappies and press the Nespresso buttons to give us some liquid gold

9:00am – Our day starts.

(Hanli zips to our room and calls Steve and Dwayne, the elder and intern of our church. They talk Godly, manly things. He doesn’t come back (ideally) until 11:30 or close to lunch time.)

This is where we do chores/ craft activities/ read books/ listen to music and dance/ run around the house/ whatever the kids feels like doing at this time. Mostly full-attention will be on them at this time, which I think really fills their emotional tank and sets them up to play by themselves later. Yes we have chores to do – more on this below.

10:00am – Phoebe goes down for a morning nap, wakes up at 10:30am

11:00am – Prepare lunch, kids play by themselves (if they haven’t already)

12:00pm – Hanli joins us back for lunch. We take our time, and chat and eat together.

1:00pm – Kids go to bed for their afternoon nap. Both kids have been sharing a room for about 3 weeks now. It’s been a journey, and most days they have broken sleeps. But our rule is that if they get some sleep, they get some sleep. If they’re not crying in distress, we don’t get them/ go in to settle them. If they are – then settle them every 10mins. One day they will see that sleep is a luxury.

**When the kids nap, this is where Hanli and I are most productive!**

I nap, I sew, I prep dinner, I read, I watch TV, I do my quite bible reading – the list is endless!

3:00pm – Kids wake up. They hang around and have free time/ afternoon snacks

4:00pm – Go outside! So thankful for lots of local parks around New Zealand that we can exercise self distancing quite easily! We’re also very fortunate to have a from yard that the kids can run around or just have a picnic outside. Honestly, with the 80% chance of broken sleep during the day, the afternoon can get quite messy. Going outside is saving grace from insanity. I can pray while pushing the pram if I go by myself with the kids, I can catch up about my day with Hanli if we walk as a family (seems weird since we both are at home but we don’t normally see each other during the day!), I can talk with the girls as we walk and ask questions and comment on what we see. Endless benefits!

5:00pm – Back home. Either start a simple dinner or finalise dinner.

5:30pm – Dinner

6:00pm – Bath time

6:30pm – one parent to a kid, cuddles/ one-on-one time with them

7:00pm – Sleep

Flexibility

I am not one to let go of control easily. Actually, it is one of my weakness that I need God to help me change! However, with 2 littlies and the nature of our current lifestyle, I have to really be flexible. The way that helps me is to break the days apart. 9:00am to 12:00pm is my biggest investment, with 4:00pm to 5:30pm being my second investment. When things go wrong, I have 1:00pm and 7:00pm to look forward to. If things really goes wrong, things will reset the next morning. Bite chunks time with the whole family indoors is the way we stay sane. That way, the day doesn’t look so daunting!

We belong to a family

One of the things I thought about a lot when Amelia was young, is how to fit our kids into our life. Talking to experienced, wise mums has taught me that life shouldn’t revolve around your children because they are a part of your family. When you have chores to do, include them! It 100% will take longer, and you probably have to do it again, but they need to see from earlier on that they are part of your family and doing things together expresses love to the members of the family. Plus, it’s a great bonding/ one-on-one time with your child, even if it’s only for a few minutes!

This is the time to bond

Businesses have closed, life has taken a halt. We are forced to stay home and be with our children and families. This is the time to bond with our children and families and get to know them more! I have realised how much time I have spent on my phone, on social media, trying to get the latest news about COVID-19 or just trying to figure out what everyone else is up to. Now is the time go back to basics and put my phone away for most of the day! Perhaps it’s also time to draw up a list of things I have put off since forever ago and actually do them!

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The Journey Begins

I have been toying around with the idea of starting a blog for quite sometime now. One moment I would jump at the chance to write one, with a million and one ideas of content flowing through my brain of what I could write – and another moment, I would be completely put off by the effort that goes on keeping a blog, and a very realistic thought that I’m probably going to run out of things to say by the third post. Alas, here I am. At ten minutes to midnight, my impulsiveness got ahead of me, “why not start one and see where this ends up right?”Perhaps the first step is to find a niche/ theme for this – I’m thinking whatever defines my life.It all started when a few (a lot) of my friends are either pregnant or trying to conceive. For a while, we were the first to have a kid in our friend group. It was (still is at times) awkward at first. We were the sleep deprived couple, with a baby(ies) in tow, often crying (baby or parent), often having my boobs out to feed, often late, often disheveled. Some friends don’t know what to do or where to look, others marvelled on how small our daughters’ toes were. Some friends we bonded more through this, others have ghosted us because our life stage is just simply too different for them to handle. Despite all this, there has been questions or advice sought out by our friends about parenting or doing life with a dependent human beings for the rest of your life. “How has it been?”, “Have you grown as a human because you’re raising one?”, “How you do know what the baby needs?”, “What is that liquid?”. Knowing me, a blabber, I used this (or any) chance as a jumping platform to go into a 15 minute spiel about my experiences about parenting – answering the initial question optional. After all, it’s been a hot minute since we have become the only parents in our friend group and it gets lonely. Plus – I’m usually the one asking all the questions to the mother’s brains trust and frantically taking notes about giving birth, sleep training, starting solids and now toilet training, and believe you me, I have nothing but gratitude from all the advice, because it has made me a calmer mother than what I could have been.So perhaps this blog can be about my parenting experience. But then it hit me. Life goes beyond than just being a parent. Life goes beyond keeping my children alive. I love my kids to bits (evident to the 1000+ photos and videos of them, or that Hanli and I talk about our kids when they’re asleep), but I don’t want my identity to solely on being a mother. That is not solely who I am, I am more than that.I am a registered nurse (RN) by trade. I work part-time, and I’ve probably worked the same amount of time as I have been on maternity leave, but my 5 face goatskin degrees (minor flex) and the ridiculous amount of student loan tells me that I am an RN. I laugh when people ask me for advice on medical issues, or better yet – when my family copy and paste circular junk threads about keeping healthy and avoiding diseases and illnesses by drinking copious amounts of hot water. Don’t even go there, folks. Still, I can’t bank on my job to define me who I am either, nor can I write about medical stuff/ advice without being triggered.I am a wife of my husband, Hanli. Together, we make a great talking team. We banter a lot and keep on each others toes. We’re also have our learners plate in this marriage business because, boy, it is persistent work! Perhaps our gift of the gab has made people feel confident to ask us about marriage advice – to which we say “get in line! We’re figuring that out too!”. Since February 2019, Hanli was ordained as the full-time pastor of our church. It’s been a fantastic and blessed time to go into the world of ministry – however, we are still fresh off the boat on this vocation – so perhaps I can write about being a pastor’s wife, but it will just be full of quotes from books and other wonderful women who’s experienced this for a lot longer than me.My identity solely relies on being a Christian; in Christ. In Christ, I am able to see my #lifegoals and that is to glorify Him in everything I do. As a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, and an employee, I strive to seek all my patience, love, care, wisdom, compassion and strength from Jesus himself. People often ask “how do you do it?” – well not me but Christ in me who does it!So what will this blog be about?Hello, I’m Sarah. I love Jesus, as well as my husband, Hanli, and two children. I live in Auckland, New Zealand and work as an RN part-time. In my spare time I love to blob and take naps to catch-up on my sleep debt. This year (and I guess for the years to come) I strive to become better at keeping plants alive, read more books, and learn new skills. I’m an amateur in DIY, a novice in sewing, baking and cooking, and not an expert in anything. I’m a binger in life – books, TV shows, chores, you name it – I love to do everything all at once and then not do it for a while (to detox). Join in me in my adventures as I blog about my experiences, thoughts and rants in all aspects of life.